Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Excerpt From My Book "Thoughts of a Genius" Vol 1, The Relationship Process

Everyone who knows me knows I love to write and that I'm writing a book about building a healthier relationship entitled T.O.A.G. , I will start taking pieces of my writings and sharing with Myspace so I hope you guys enjoy.
Passage From A Guide to a healthier relationship page 16 Author T.O.A.G. a.k.a. Panic b.k.a. Andre'Prewitt
Growth & Change ( Relationship Process)
Change according to Webster's denotes a making or becoming distinctly different and implies either a radical transmutation of character or replacement with something else. To cause to become different; alter; transform; convert.
Many of us make the mistake in relationships by thinking and trying to change the other person. We put all our efforts in trying to "fix" and change our loved ones. Instead of accepting them and loving them as is, we think they would be so much better if only they would act and do things our way. We all want and need unconditional love. No one wants to feel that they can only be loved and accepted by someone if they change according to the wants and desires of that special someone. If you think you can change another person you are really fooling yourself. The only person you can change is you! Once you change others will change. Foe every action there is a reaction. As you change and grow others will change and grow. Change is scary and some people wont want you to change. The fear of the unknown keeps these people fromwanting any change in their lives and so they wont want to see you change. Don't allow allow other peoples fears to hold you back from making the positive changes you desire in life. If you want to change realize it takes time (GROWTH). Dont be hard on yourself if you fall back to old ways. (it happens) We are all creatures of habit. It took a long time for you to be who you are today and you shouldn't expect to change overnight. Also remember that CHANGE IS A CHOICE. You can choose to start today and learn to develop and create positive changes you want. Remember a good loving relationship is one that allows each person to be himself or herself. Each person needs the freedom to grow and change at their own pace as they see fit.

T.O.A.G. a.k.a. Andre' Prewitt b.k.a. Panic, I hope ya'll like it

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