Sunday, December 14, 2008
Lame = Andre' Prewitt
(Note) - I don't mind being a lame, most lames go on to be very successful. As a matter of fact, I've always been lame and weird and I'm NOW proud of it, I'm not trying to fit in with you other guys, I'll just continue to let the other lames follow the leader. :-)
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Oh and by the way.....
Meant to post this when I woke up,lol
Sunday, November 23, 2008
To My Readers
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Saturday, November 15, 2008
New Job... Same Racism - Abortion blog
Sunday, November 9, 2008
4me2remember - Ron Artest
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Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Monday, November 3, 2008
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Failyn Caught my ear
Caught ya ear??????
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Friday, October 24, 2008
Just Rhymin
PANIC
Digest the cypher
My favorite part of the night THE CYPHER ROUND 3 with Ace hood and 3 Gods of Rap, Fab, Kiss, & Juelz
Today My Readers...
Instead of talking about it, I got my 1st time voter ass up and went to Vote... Yah, It felt so good ya'll... Of course I had to go through alot of ish because I just registerd like a month ago and I still didnt have my voter registration card and they had me waiting like foreverish but.... when the kid was about to say F-it and walk away she said baby, they found your info, Joyish moment in my life and I'm glad I waited... So I say to you my readers, There will definately be obsticles, cold weather, Campain Scams, etc... but PLEASE LET YOUR VOICE BE HEARD AND VOTE. Now theres NOBAMA way I'll tell you who to vote for but Bidden Believe you've been watching the debates, so don't be sarah palin about it, you're smarter than that, dont be stuck in your McC-old ways, lol Obam your ass to the voting sites and lets make history
Thursday, October 23, 2008
BET Awards
Spank yo damn kids
So I was watching some show this morning and of course "WHITES" were on it, Interesting... ( I find some things whites discuss Hillarious)so the topic was discipline for the kids. It was 1 white lady against 3 white women and a white man, The 1 white lady spanked her kids and the opposers believed in "Time Out", LMAO... Anyways So they say if you don't spank your kids, (Spanking seems to be a curse word in the White HouseHold)then your emotional bond with your child will be stronger in the future. They say that whippin your kids, makes them grow up angry, and that their emotional bond with their parent(s)will be tarnished. WTF... I'm sorry readers but I got my ass whooped ass a child, I mean whipped, lol... Anyways It taught me to behave, I didnt want them whippins so before I did something wrong, The whippins made my ass think... I feel if I would have been put in time out then I wouldve been like, Damn, Well see aint whipping me, I have no physical damage to my ass so I can live with a timeout but I'm more likely to constantly get in trouble because I'm not worried about a real punishment. I'm really blessed to have gotten spanked, Thank you God,It taught me alot and made me use my head instead of just getting into a bunch of stuff. Question readers (Especially Black readers) did your Parents name their punishment tools? lol, my aunts belt name was "black boy" and my moms belt was named "friend" ( Thick Leather old skool belts with them big ass buckles) them joints hurted, lol, oh and back in the day.. you know imma country boy right????? Well back in the day not only did ya mom whip you but everyone on the block beat that ass before you got to the house so my ass was extra swollen and red, Anyways the point of this blog was fuck that timeout shit, Beat They ass... lol
Today... I Fell
Ok so today at work, I was outside helping my boss, and of course i forgot to mention that it was raining, Anywho... I was helping my boss out and I slipped hella hard, Fell straight in the mud, I was hella embarrassed, OMG... so I know my boss wanted to laugh but he didnt, instead he asked me was I ok, I swallowed and said, yeah I'm cool dude, just kind of embarrassed I fell in front of you... Anywho, I finished the day Mad Muddie, lol
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Experiment for the rest of the year - TRUTH EXPERIMENT- 8:40pm 10/22/2008
Ok so Today at this very moment I'm trying an experiment on truth. So this is how it works. I'm challenging myself to be COMPLETELY HONEST with every issue, we all tell small lies and thats one of the things that I'm xxxxxxin out. If you ask me if your breath stanks, You'll now get the answer u need, lol... I'll let you know how this goes.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Bullshit (venting)
So this Bitch(yea I said it)obviously has TOURETTE'S SYNDROME right, but this BITCH says everytime she sees a black person she screams out nigger....????? yeah... are you thinking what I'm thinking readers???? Its bullshit, then she states... (Pay attention), that she has a tendency to yell out what shes thinking, what comes to her mind.... So when you look at blacks, you think of us as NIGGERS? but get this readers, she claims she isnt racist. I don't think she should have a problem when an UnRacist NIGGER beats her ass then, I bet she'll shut her ass up then. I'm upset because I feel she's using this as an excuse to use the word.... Am I Wrong?????? No I've seen people in her situation, but.... I'm not buying this shit, I just can't... what do you think readers? Comment
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Speak on it (10-15-2008)
Yesterday... @ my place of employment a white co-worker approaches me and says hey Dre', guess what I woke up to this morning,(with a smirk on her face), What I asked, Dude I got a text from my buddie that stated: What does Obamas Slogan, It's time for a change stand for? Unaware of the texts answer I smiled and said what? With almost a develish grin she Smile and said "Come Help a Nigga Get Elected" and burst into uncontrolable laughter, I smiled and walked away, I was totally bothered by it but ignored it. Later at Wal-mart I spoke with a homegirl and when I mentioned the text she said about Obama, that junt was too funny, I said... Like hell it was funny, I felt it was disrespectful, She said her friends white and black had been sending it to one another, Should I feel this way or am I overreacting?
Speak on it ( Past Horror 1990)
Just thought I'd say with the world an experience I had in the Past. So I had to be about 8 or 9, I was with my uncle and we went to a pet store, He had me waiting in the car while he ran in the store to pick up a tropical fish he'd ordered, so as I waitied I saw two older guys who obviously parked next to us walking up to their vehicle, Being young.. you look at things, well like I said they were walking up and one of the two looked at me and said " look at the little nigger " .... Surely he wasn't addressing me I thought... because I am a biracial baby and I have white relatives whom I get along with and love so much... Again, he states, Bobby, Look at that little ape, the little nigger, My eyes widened in disbelief, I was the nigger he spoke of... As they were getting in the car I looked on (as kids sometimes do)... eyes full of water but had not yet leaked, I didnt really know what a nigger was then but somehow I felt very disrespected. They gazed at me once more, stuck up a middle finger and said, turn around before I lynch u nigger, Terrorfied I did as requested as the water leaked from my eyes. When My uncle returned with his beautiful Tropical fish, I said nothing but tried to dry my tears and tuck my feelings under my shirt. Just wanted to share it with my readers... Maybe I can stop dreaming about it now..
Monday, October 6, 2008
Random ( something to think on )
(yawnin) sniff, sniff????
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Thursday, October 2, 2008
Old Chicks diggggggggggg me
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
RANDOM THOUGHT
Monday, September 29, 2008
The Best (Love ya Tuggy)
I really needed this, thanks
Sunday, September 28, 2008
WTF...
Saturday, September 27, 2008
I'M Different ( The Ugly Duckling story)
So I just posting this amazing blog @ the Panic Room http://memphpanic.tumblr.com/ straight from my Heart on me being diffent so check it out. I didnt wanna post the same ish on my blogspot so I'm entitling this the Ugly Duckling.
So as Stated in my other blog http://memphpanic.tumblr.com/, I'm different and I've finally grown to accept that. All my life I've been busting my ass to fit in and still wasn't accepted, wow... actually sucks when you think about it. anywho, I was the guy who always wish I looked this way, dressed this way, hung with this crowd, etc.. but like I said I wasnt accepted, I blamed God for the most part along with everyone else instead of paying attention to the 3 fingers pointing back at myself. I always felt like I had to have people like me ( When its dark in your life just wait for the daylight) sorry listening to in the morning by Mary Mary, anyways don't know why i was like that but for some reason I've always loved and admired people who did them, They didnt care what people said they kept it moving and Look @ them Now
TUGGY
Nedria a.k.a RN, lmao
Greedy aka The Twin
Lisa
Trina
My Besties are all successful in my eyes and all well almost all have been alienated in some way or another but what I love about them is that they stayed an Individual... stayed strong... Sooooooooo to the point, Growing up, even though i had a twin, everyone always thought he was the cute twin.. I was the ugly duckling, the outcast and honestly I can say i've been that up until this very point and no one to blame but myself because i've accepted this, I'm even more accepting to it now when you see where I'm going with this. So being in the shadows only made me a shadow, trying to follow people took away from the true leader I am and made me a follower. Its crazy because I was tryna follow and others were tryna follow me... Get it yet??? of course you don't. Not speaking only made me not have a voice.... it amazed me of how low I thought of myself sometimes yet those who rejected me (speaking to the ladies) back then now want me... they think I'm sexy... Don't make me post the MS messages, lol or when I'm out they be Jockin AP Jockin Jockin AP, lol but dig this I still didnt get it. Saying this (Note To Myself): Dare to Be Dre', why should I continue to be ashamed of being different????? Different is cool right????? if not it sure in the hell is finna be cause thats how I've been rolling anyways and everyone knows the ugly blossoms into the beautiful, in some cases, lol. Outcast?........ I am, Individually I could conquer whatever I wanted to, God did... He had faith and believed in himself, shouldnt I. This blog is to those who don't fit in. If it was bothering you, let it not again. I dont fit in either and I'm cool with that. Different is the new cool and the others will soon wanna be apart of what we are so far ahead of them in. Listen to this, a big chunk of those so called IN- crowders arent being true to themselves, they are living a lie, they are fitting in like we were trying to, keeping it real, everyone dont fit in with everybody, Example: Put a Popular student in a class full of nerds, in their envirionment they are superior and the popular student is just another.... another person. Starting today I'm coming out, My head held up high, I wont be ashamed that i'm different as of now, I embrace it. Bill Gates was Different, so was alot of other Million & Billionaires. Jesus was different and so am I. God Made us all different anyways, Take pride in that. I've grown from that Ugly Duckling into a Handsome.... Different... but still handsome Male Swain or a Cob
I've always thought differently from others but have hidden my thoughts. Today I arise as the different Individual that I've so longed to unveil to a harsh society. "DARE TO BE DIFFERENT, I AM"
Friday, September 26, 2008
Good Love
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Quote of the day... Night, lol
like the blood that unites us.
We did not weave the web of life,
We are merely a strand in it.
Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves.
-Chief Seattle
(indulge in knowledge)
Sweetest email I got in like forever
Monday, September 22, 2008
Sunday, September 21, 2008
Me back in the day
Friday, September 19, 2008
Are we living in a Dream World?
I think at least 70 percent of peoples lifes are built on lies, If i met T.I., you like, man I met jay z or 50 cent, I’m gonna make this short and sweet, Be yourself, don’t flodge to fit in with the IN Crowd, be different and stand out. Sometimes its cool just being you, thats why God made us all individuals so accept yourself, fat, super skinny, acne faced, whatever, appreciate yourself.
Tomorrow
Sunday, September 14, 2008
ReBlogged: Memphis BEATS, Atlanta Heat and New Inside Chess Moves To Do
Look at Atlanta. T.I., Ludacris and Young Jeezy.
Look at Houston. Slim Thug, Paul Wall and Mike Jones.
Everytime I talk to anyone at home about the local rap music scene, I get varying answers. You still have some people that think that Three 6 Mafia ACTUALLY controls the cities ariwaves (well, not counting Hot 107.1 FM...but that's not confirmed per se). Then, you have some people that tell me that there just isn't a true sense of unity in the city. I would agree but that statement can be answered with a yes and a no.
The veteran rappers are either disconnected, obselete, or have so much historical bad blood between each other that they will never attempt to do any record together. I could never imagine a Gangsta Pat and Three 6 Mafia song or a Kinfolk Kia Shine and Three 6 Mafia song (especially after Three 6 recently dissed Kia Shine at a autograph signing at Cat's Music in Memphis in retalliation for a previous diss on video and on Shine's Street Wars mixtapes). I mean the guy that got the first major record label deal with the self-proclaimed Kings of Memphis? How big would that be? What about a collaboration with our last viable major label artist with his new deal on Universal/Motown? Are they only dreams?
But, them like many other rappers in the city have dissed Three 6 Mafia and burned a major bridge with one of Memphis' most visible artists. Now, symbolically I'm not saying you HAVE to take the Hernando De Soto Bridge to get out of the city. You could down I-240 to I-55. You can go out through Millington. You can take I-40 to Nashville. But, you never want to limit your own personal options to move the city forward. Dissing any man, click or record label can do this.
But, there is hope with many of the newer artists coming out of the city. Miscellaneous and Yo Gotti are examples of some rappers that have had a disagreement but has since settled the problem and have since recorded with each other. Also, we can't forget the stunning display of unity shown on the Three 6 Mafia hit single "Stay Fly" featuring Eightball & MJG and Young Buck. This is still the highest Billboard-charted single from any artist/group coming out of Memphis,Tennessee.
But what I see happening now is nothing more than ingenious. I look at Jazze Pha, Drumma Boy and DJ Squeeky and figured out that his is it! The music. The actual beats. The beatmakers. The producers from Memphis are actually keeping the scene alive for all Memphis artists right now. I thank them all for that.
Every person who buys the Young Jeezy "The Recession" album is supporting the legendary Orange Mound veteran DJ Squeeky ("Welcome Back"). If you buy any Ciara album, you most definitely will have Jazze Pha on the boards. Three 6's DJ Paul & Juicy "J" ("Stay Together") on Ludacris' upcoming album "Theatre Of The Mind" is also getting heavy rotation.
What about Dem Franchise Boyz and Joe Blow Da' CEO's gold plaque for his production on their cerified-gold "On Top of Our Game"? T-Mix on The Carter II? What about Carlos "Six July" Broady who produced "What's Beef?" and Notorious B.I.G's "Life After Death" and was a member of the legendary Hitmen production team under the reigns of Puff Daddy?
Even Christopher Gholson, better known as Drumma Boy is a shining example with top-billing production on Lil' Scrappy, Gorilla Zoe, Pastor Troy, Blood Raw, Ludacris T.I. and Young Jeezy's number one single "Put On" off of his "Recession" album.
These are the chess moves that will put Memphis "on" in the upcoming years. Drumma Boy and DJ Squeeky WILL get gold and/or platinium plaques this year. This is what the city need. I just hope with the expansion of our homegrown sound that the city will be in the limelight it needs to be in. And just maybe, we will finally get our time.
Checkmate.
Posted by L'Daialogue
Just talking since its only 5:17 in the AM
Friday, September 12, 2008
Hella Sick 8:07
THE DAY REPORT: The Misconceptions Of Rap As A BUSINESS
What is it about the rap music industry that makes people standing on the sidelines assume they understand how it works? Does it look easy from the outside looking in? Are folks so blinded by watching BET and reading a couple of rap magazines that they actually think they understand the ins and outs enough to pursue this shit as a career?
I agree that it’s easier to get into this industry than it is to play professional ball, or be a rocket scientist for NASA (all that pesky schooling), or to be a brain surgeon (again, more years of schooling and actual experience operating on brains). But it’s not so easy that someone can wake up tomorrow fresh off a job at Burger King, and say “I want to be a rap star,” or my personal favorite: “I am going to manage my boy Bo-Bo’s rap career.”
If it was as easy as going to Kinko’s and pressing up some business cards, don’t you think EVERYONE would be doing that? Oh wait! They are!!
One of the saddest days of my life was the day I realized that Hip-Hop was no longer a culture, no longer a lifestyle choice, but a business. And a very big business it was. People from outside of the culture were co-opting it and making money from it. I knew that this also meant that the day it no longer was profitable, they’d move on like the fair weather friends they were (we’re almost there, by the way). Lyor Cohen wasn’t tagging subway cars, and his pants weren’t sagging, but his decisions controlled the movement of rap music far more than anyone whose pants did sag. There was a trade off though. For the first time in my lifetime, I was able to see young people of color get good paying jobs in the music business. Some even had perceived power. I was able to see artists make money for themselves and feed their families and create their own companies based on their level of fame. And this was a good thing. This was the 90s.
Then 2000 hit and reality shows were everywhere. Billionaire heiresses became famous for doing nothing but sleeping around and getting high or drunk. The behavior of an Old Dirty Bastard type of character was no longer seen as bizarre or pushing the envelope. Hell, Flavor Flav had his own TV show doing that shit in his sleep!
But somehow the mindset was born in all of this that getting into the music industry is easy. No training, no experience, no relationships….just POOF! I’m a manager! Or POOF! I own a record label. Artists seemingly believe it comes down to “getting discovered” by someone at a record label, but in the 16 years that I have been doing this, I can’t think of one scenario where that was the case. Who is telling these kids from OH and TX and Cali that they can just mail in a demo to a major record label in NYC and they will get offered a deal? That has NEVER, EVER, EVER happened!! The labels don’t even listen to unsolicited material. They send it back unopened. There’s even a question in my mind if most of the A and Rs have the time to listen to the stuff they request…
I get hundreds of emails from wanna-be artists each week asking me to get them a record deal. They have no idea what they are asking me, and they have no idea why they are asking me, but somehow I am a perceived gatekeeper stopping or allowing them to live their dreams. A dream they made no effort to research or learn about. I also get a ton of emails from people complaining that their city has more talent than Atlanta, or Miami, or Houston, or Dallas, or whatever city is the flavor of the minute in the music industry. The PERCEPTION is that the labels get together and decide which city or town will be next, and then they all go there. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha Sorry to laugh, but that is so funny to me. These industry folks can’t even decide which artist on their own rosters to put out next and here are these kids in, say, Buffalo NY thinking they are getting passed over for their only shot at music success.
The reason certain cities develop their own industry is out of frustration. When enough talent in one place (artists, producers, DJs, etc)—Atlanta, for example, gets frustrated enough to say “Fuck the industry!” and start doing things on their own separate from the industry, and when they begin to make a little noise on their own, the industry comes running to see what’s going on. If the industry feels they can make money off of a new movement, they arrive in droves to co-opt that movement, signing anyone they can get their hands on at the price they are willing to spend. If they don’t think it will lead to massive national sales, they leave as quickly as they came (see the Hyphy Movement in the Bay Area for proof of this phenomenon).
Rap music is a business. It stopped being just an artform, very sadly, in the 90s. The view of the music industry "putting on forgotten cities" is very wrong. An artist, or a city, has to create its own movement to attract the industry. IF the established industry thinks it can pimp it and make some money, it’s a done deal.
Being a non-sports person, I am going to try to make a basketball analogy, so bear with me. I went to a Knick's game in NYC a few years ago. In watching the team play (not so well), I decided that I could do that better than anyone on that team could. I had always loved basketball, so I went home and practiced for years. Every waking moment, I practiced. But the Knicks never called me to come play with them. I live in Atlanta, where I think very few ball players are from (it doesn’t matter if there are a lot of ball players from here or not, no one I know is getting put on by the NBA). We have a ton of talented ball players here just in my neighborhood alone—yet, the Knicks never called me. I practiced every day and knew I was better than anyone on that whole team. I wrote letter after letter to the Knicks telling them to come to Atlanta and watch players play ball, especially me. I even offered to fly some team scouts in at my own expense. No one came. Looks like Atlanta is just a forgotten city in basketball because they didn’t come when I called.
Finally, out of annoyance, I went back to a Knicks game, and when the ball came out of bounds over near where I was sitting, I got out of my floor seats and threw the ball and scored a basket—all net! A very impressive shot. When folks came over to me, I explained that I was a great player and deserved to be on the Knicks. But they laughed at me and were angry that I interrupted the game.
What did I do wrong? Why didn't they sign me up on the spot? Was it because I didn't take the time to learn the BUSINESS of basketball? It was my favorite sport, but once it left the b-ball courts in my town, it became a business when the Knicks name was attached to it. I didn't follow protocol--learning the sport, playing through school, playing through college and standing out, and getting drafted to a team (one in a million shot). I just assumed it was about throwing the ball through the hoop because of my love of the sport. And I assumed if they saw me do it well, that was all that mattered.
Realizing this is a half-assed analogy, I hope you understand what I am trying to say. If you want to do this for a living, learn the rules and protocol. It's NOT just about grabbing a mic or about a scout from a label stumbling into any city outside of NYC to discover talent and putting your city on the map. That couldn't be farther from reality.... And how sad is it that we all understand how the business of basketball works, but we think we can mail a demo to someone at a record label and become the next major superstar
Thank God it's Friday
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Ye Fed Up
Did You Know? Random
MMMMMMMMMM
Alpha MAN
DID I Killed Hip-Hop
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Me against me
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Tuggy
So I've fell off for a min, but I plan on coming back in full force and what better way to come back than with an Blog about my girl K.T. a.k.a. TUGGY
So presenting to you: The TALENTED, THE BEAUTIFUL, THE INTELLIGENT, K.T., I just wanted to blog about how good of a person she is, even if we don't talk it's understood that she's my homie for life. Her spirit is golden and although she's unaware she's an inspiration to me, Like i said in a prev blog on Tumblr, She pushes me to be my best even if she doesnt know it and I do look up to her. She is a very strong person and if she wants something she goes and gets it, she pushes herself to be her best, boy how i wish i had her spirit, kudos, K.T. stay grounded babe, you my friend are definately going very far in life. :)
Friday, September 5, 2008
Friday, August 29, 2008
Sunday, August 24, 2008
SeCreLeak
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Where u wanna be
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Unperfect
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
For the Ladies
Characteristics of Happy Couples
In a good relationship the commitment to all three aspects of it (oneself, one's partner, and the relationship) are strong. Conscious efforts can improve all three.
Commitment To The RelationshipThey focus on being a couple. They spend time alone as a couple, on a regular basis. All the other aspects of a healthy relationship are dependent on this time together. They do not view their relationship as dependent on other relationships, such as being the kids' mom and dad. They view their relationship as unique and special, in its own right. To improve? Schedule, schedule, schedule. Time alone will just not happen in many busy lives. Some do best with 30 minutes an evening. Others need a block of time on the weekend. Let other people (i.e. the kids) know that this is your time. Turn off the phone. Plan so the kids have food and entertainment. Discuss yourself, your partner, and the relationship. Continually update and revise your vision of your lives together. Catch up on the details of one another's lives outside the relationship. Talk about your childhood, tell your partner about significant events in your past, be they happy or sad, and how they affect you today. Discuss your feelings, emotions, and frustrations honestly but tactfully. They share a common vision that they change together. Good relationships form when the partners share common values, interests, and goals in life. But, over the course of a life together, many things change. Rather than pursuing completely individual paths to change and "drift apart", good couples pursue change together. They negotiate their differing needs and opinions to arrive at a common, but updated vision. To Improve? Make a list. List all the aspects of your lives together and where you hope to be in 5 years, 10 years, and beyond. They list is up to you, but money the most common reason for conflict in a relationship and should certainly be on the list. Other tangibles to discuss are children, where you will live, how you divide up work inside and outside the home. In the course of nailing down the tangibles the values and priorities will come into play. Some couples and families even write a mission statement. They share power equally and show signs of caring In good relationships one partner does not dominate the other. There is a true give and take in making decisions, and not a facade of equality. Gestures of caring are frequent. To improve? Judging equality in one's own relationship is inherently biased. Studies have shown most couples will state that they are equals in their relationship, but objective criteria will show the man has more control. Partner's satisfaction was tied more closely to the outside observer's assessment, rather than their own perceptions. Try to be objective and honest about this. Negotiate and change, if needed. Gestures of caring are a bit easier. Small gifts, physical affection, favors for the partner's personal goals, and compliments all go a long way. Keep a log of what you have done for your partner, make goals, note missed opportunities to say or do something nice and resolve to change it. (but do NOT keep a log of what they have done for you). In a busy life, you will be surprised how long you go without doing these types of things, unless you make a conscious effort. They Resolve Conflict in Healthy Ways They do not deny or suppress differences. They negotiate. They do not belittle one another. They look for win-win solutions. They are honest with one another, but gentle. To improve? Don't use the the word "you" in discussing frustrations, use the word "I". Say what the behavior makes you feel, how it impacts you, without blaming your partner.
Committment to HerselfWomen in healthy relationships have their own lives and identities aside from the relationship. Intimacy is not isolating. They have friends, activities, and interests outside the relationship. Being in the couple adds to their lives, but is not their lives. They do not try to be close to their partner at all times. They do not share every detail of their lives past or present with their partner. They have privacy. To Improve? Many women have trouble with this aspect. Men have a tradition of a night out with the boys. Women, especially working women with children, have so many duties and responsibilities that they don't feel they have time. Women are more conditioned to see their lives in terms of their relationships, especially their spouse or partner. Lesbian women tend to have trouble because they see each other as one another's total support system. Improvement here is tied to other aspects. Re-distribute responsibilities so that you have time carved out to pursue your own interests and friendships. Once you have the time, plan to use it.
Commitment to Her PartnerShe takes an interest in his life outside the relationship. She has positive regard for his characteristics. She tolerates non-destructive faults. She accepts that there will be short periods of falling out of love, annoyance, or trouble with him. She respects him. She treats him as he wishes to be treated, not as she would like someone to treat her. To improve? Finding out what your partner's work or outside life is like is something to be done during your time alone. Finding out how he wants to be treated is part of this too. Be open with one another, love causes many changes, it does not make you psychic. He is annoying the crap out of you. Think to yourself, will this matter in a year? If the answer is 'no' forget about it. If that doesn't work, can you change how you view it? Many couple hit hard times when the very characteristics that attracted, now infuriate them. Remember who you fell in love with. Is he pudgy, goofy, and scatterbrained? Or is he the hunky, zany, and spontaneous guy that got your attention at a party so many years ago. Even if it has nothing to do with what is annoying you, remember who you fell in love with. When behavior can't be overlooked, back to alone time and negotiate. Spell out exactly what displeases you and what you would like in its place. Don't make it a personal attack. Tell your partner how it affects you. Be willing to change some things too, if he counters.
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
A Good Man
The Question of the day is what defines a good man? is it the kind of car he drives or his clothing brand? Is he popular with his peeps? got the good paying job? Athletic and artistic, just living it large, when he's out they pay attention, got a pocket full of cash, clubbing buying out the bar, making every moment last, is this your good man? the bachlor without a home who's desired by all?
What if I don't look like Denzel, Morris Chestnut, Shamar, Ginuwine, Usher, or T.I.?????? Does that not make me a good guy??????? I might not have the best job but i work honestly, and money is my motivation but it doesn't always come to me, and my car isnt the best, only cost 1000 bucks, but it gets the job done, never stranded or stuck, sometimes i like to be alone, don't always have to link up, prefer to get things accomplished and write down what i think up, I'm a go getter, not one to wait for things to happen but sometimes they come slow, but never dwelt on the bad cause it helped me grow.
God is my father, Anthony's my brother, I know ya'll don't care but Linda's my mother, I am very intelligent, with a great attitude, friendly with everyone, never one to be rude, I consider myself handsome, 6'4'' and a good catch personally, but I can't get a good woman, use to think something was wrong with me
Not really, Women are just confused about what they want, the thuggished type, who wants a quick fuck, well I'm not a thug, I'm just a country boy who knows what he deserves, someone I can grow old with and get on each others nerves, lol, see, I am a good man, with or without the looks or the money, with or without anyone, I am self-motivated, I drive my life and i stay away from the drama, alone on club nights, do better things with my money, I dont have all name brand clothes or all the J's, Not a materialistic person, like many of those today, focus is much bigger, than others can see, I know i'm gonna make it, I believe in me........................ .......................... .................. This is just a sample of a Very long poem
T.O.A.G.
Excerpt From My Book "Thoughts of a Genius" Vol 1, The Relationship Process
Passage From A Guide to a healthier relationship page 16 Author T.O.A.G. a.k.a. Panic b.k.a. Andre'Prewitt
Growth & Change ( Relationship Process)
Change according to Webster's denotes a making or becoming distinctly different and implies either a radical transmutation of character or replacement with something else. To cause to become different; alter; transform; convert.
Many of us make the mistake in relationships by thinking and trying to change the other person. We put all our efforts in trying to "fix" and change our loved ones. Instead of accepting them and loving them as is, we think they would be so much better if only they would act and do things our way. We all want and need unconditional love. No one wants to feel that they can only be loved and accepted by someone if they change according to the wants and desires of that special someone. If you think you can change another person you are really fooling yourself. The only person you can change is you! Once you change others will change. Foe every action there is a reaction. As you change and grow others will change and grow. Change is scary and some people wont want you to change. The fear of the unknown keeps these people fromwanting any change in their lives and so they wont want to see you change. Don't allow allow other peoples fears to hold you back from making the positive changes you desire in life. If you want to change realize it takes time (GROWTH). Dont be hard on yourself if you fall back to old ways. (it happens) We are all creatures of habit. It took a long time for you to be who you are today and you shouldn't expect to change overnight. Also remember that CHANGE IS A CHOICE. You can choose to start today and learn to develop and create positive changes you want. Remember a good loving relationship is one that allows each person to be himself or herself. Each person needs the freedom to grow and change at their own pace as they see fit.
T.O.A.G. a.k.a. Andre' Prewitt b.k.a. Panic, I hope ya'll like it